So very sorry to hear of your difficult time. I take trazadone to help me sleep and I find I need at least an hour before it kicks in. It does make me pretty groggy the next morning, so often I only take a half of one.

My dad was recently put on trazadone and it has helped tremendously! I think you just have to be consistent.
Before the trazadone when he would go into his episodes (as I call them) he could be agitated, trying to go home, walk through doors that aren't there, etc. With the trazadone, when he goes into episode, it's mostly talking to people that aren't there. Dealing with him is much easier and he usually sleeps through the night. However, one of the side effects appears to be loose stools and at first I was changing him and the bedding daily because he would sleep right through. It has gotten somewhat better and he has clear days but is very weak and needs assistance and encouragement to get up to the walker. We have put a commode in his room, but I'm not sure if he's too weak to get up and use it himself or just doesn't have control of his stools.
The other day, he told me he was ashamed he gave me so many problems to take care of him, changing & cleaning daily. Of course, even though I never thought I'd be tasked with cleaning his backside, I told him I loved him and he didn't need to be ashamed because as his daughter, that's what I'm here for.

Good luck with mum, prayers for both of you and hubby.

A physical therapist can show you ways to move your mom that will be a lot easier talk to young mom's doc insurance will pay for a few visits it

Thank you so much for your story and advice. I am concerned about when mom gets to the stage when she cant control her bowels or urine. I have very little strength due to long standing Rheumatoid Arthritis as a child. After several joint replacements and more to come, the lack of strength leaves me unable to lift her or catch her from falls. My 2 brothers are unable to care for her due to their full time jobs. One refuses to be a part of any caregiving and the orher says it should be the absolute last option to be placed in a facility. I feel the same, but what will i do?