My mum has reported to my sister and i that she was abused in the care home where she currently lives. We are not 100% sure this actually happened and believe recent upsetting events along with an accidental ripping of her trousers have somehow hallucinated into a traumatic experience for her.
This is currently being investigated by the police and the local safeguarding team to make sure no real harm actually took place. For our peace of mind too.
Its real (or is at the moment) for my mum and… read more
If she says she was abused--believe her. My mom was neglected in one nursing home resulting in a gigantic bed sore on her bum. In the next nursing home they broke both of her legs while trying to move her. Abuse is real and any report of abuse should be investigated --even if she reports it many more times. Assure your mom that you are doing all you can to take care of the situation and make sure she is safe. Then try to do some happy things with her to distract her.
This his what I mean about those charts allways ask you must Always ask to see them when visiting who fed her at meals time how much Fluids she has Had time and date on chart and Signed buy the nurse or who ever did it and when THEY Check her for pad changing it should be monitored and again SIGNED and times should be there if they are Bed Bound it should be Every three hrs and written on the Triangle at above the headboard so when you visit you will know the next visit for check that's how it Should be done and if they say we don't do that they must Record things For you and the patient then you know who has Done What and you can Allways Back Track When she was washed when she was Eating Fluids and While I am on this the Bed Sore dosent just come they should have told you before about it who washed her who Recorded it at the start and when they put Barrier Cream on and that should be done and recorded They must keep Record's for Every Patient No Matter What Frankie x
My mom had some delusional experiences (people stealing from her, people talking behind her back, people walking on the roof, men walking into her room at night) and some which were real but not sexual in nature. There was a LVN that was harsh in her treatment of Mom being mean and rough with the changing of her bandages or pain patches or moving her. We had the ombudsman handle the problem and they did move the nurse to a different section of the facility..Mom was still uneasy and afraid for about six months after then she lost more of her abilities and I could only visit unexpectedly check her for bruising and pray. The staff appeared knowledgeable helpful and friendly so I didn't try to move her from that facility although I was looking around and considering other options for her.
These episodes are usually delusional, like the birds flying in his bedroom, the dog we don't have, burglars stealing his stuff or hiding it. (when it's him) or a man looking for my bedroom. I just agree with him, but these are things that hurt no one, so I hope your Mums episode turns out the same. It must be very hard though because these things are so real to them, and no matter what you say, you cannot reason with them. I hope she finds some peace soon. x
Oh boy how distressing and very difficult. I have absolutely no idea how to manage such a situation. Wishing you all the best, and hope your mum can move through this experience real or not, soonest.