She sobs. Tells us we don't understand. She feels like she is in a prison, Taken her will to live. Not sure what approach I should use to help her adjust. Will she adjust? She lives alone and there are 3 daughters who are willing to take her wherever and whenever she needs to go.
We had to do the same for Dad a few months ago. He was very confused and annoyed with us. We continue to reassure him that it was the safest thing not only for him but other road users. We praise him for being so brave and understanding and remind him how mad the roads are now and tell him how lucky he is not to have to drive on such busy roads anymore. I think us praising him and telling him how wise he is flatters him and deflects his attention away from him losing his car! We too are able to fetch and carry him but if course it’s not the same. I can sleep at night knowing it was the right choice we had to make on his behalf. Keep at it - you’re doing great x
Great advice from Cindie re letter (keep copies) and removing car...also may be time to plan for when mom can no longer live on her own.
Hello, my Mums is also in mid stage and hasn't driven in more than 6 months. I just said that if her memory improves we will see as each day is different. In the beginning she would say I'm ok and I don't go far, I would say that part is fine but if a child were to run onto the road you probably wouldn't react fast enough. She has grandchildren and one great grandchild and this seemed to help her understand. I also organised a Taxi card, although I drive her nearly everywhere, it gives her the feeling of independence. The first 3 months were the hardest. My Mum has only just excepted that she will never drive again.
Not yet. I have been thinking we should ask the dr about that.
Is she on antidepressants?