Good Morning!
With my mom, I agree and distract. There is no more truth other than their belief at the moment. Its like an alternate universe for both of us. I still find it hard to lie to my mom (The little kid in me I guess) but I know it is the kindest thing to do. I also find that what matters more than what I am saying is, how I say it. If I am calm, happy and confident my mom is reassured. I think that sometimes she doesn't even actually understand what I am saying but she definitely gets my mood and tone.

Thanks for the advice Linda, I just felt bad for alarming him. He is only on night 2 of staying in the home and so I felt that I had added to the upset and confusion. I understand how distressing it all is for him and have been very compassionate, I just didn't know if I should just agree with him, or gently tell him the truth.... this is when he gets agitated and upset because he hasn't remembered or realised something and gets very defensive. I'm on the learning curve now and all I can do is give it my best :)

We answer in truth to my father-in-law, and he has accepted what we say. He may not like it but soon forgets. It is not easy but everyone handles this disease differently. Sometims when he says things that are not true, we just say really, cool ain't Cha... He laughs... When his shoes are hidden and he comes out and asks if I know where they are, we tell him yes, but he doesn't need them until we take him out. It works, sometimes he will demand them, but we are firm in a loving way and then he goes oh well. This is a horrible disease... Thankful to our Lord helping us through it.

always be honest. be empathetic and compassionate and at all times respect their dignity. you have to understand their illness isnt easy on them be prepared to comfort them. be with them as much as you can and or phone everyday