My mums limbs twitch and jump when she is dosing during the day.

My mother has very restless nights, she wakes up between 1am and 5 am and tries to get up out of bed and wander, it can be 2-6x a night. Our worst nightmare happened three weeks ago when she got up and fell beside her bed and had a displaced fracture of the pelvis. She is on the mend but night time is a serious safety issue for us. I have ordered a bed alarm mat that works like a baby monitor that alerts us if she gets up off the pad as well as putting cushioned mats by her bed to cushion a… read more

How did you know it was time to put your loved one in a care facility? Did you have a line in the sand? Some days I'd like to check myself in! Of course I'd like to wait as long as possible. My husband sleeps a lot, doesn't eat much any more and is losing weight. It's a battle to shower, etc... He's incontinent. Has no interest in personal hygiene. I have a caregiver who comes 3 days a week for 4 hours to take him to lunch, get a haircut, hear live music, etc, but in the past two weeks or… read more

Memory care facilities advertise that they can take care of our loved ones, even to their dying day. But anyone who has a loved one in memory care, knows that, other than providing meals for them, administering their meds, and keeping them in a safe (locked) environment, there’s very limited “caring”. This works ok for the early stages of dementia. Not so much, as the disease progresses. Seems like the only choices are to add 1x1 private care or allow the facility to medicate them until they’re… read more

Mom still can do her personal care for the most part. She does not use the kitchen anymore, nor does she drive or go anyplace unattended. Her spouse is taking care of her for the most part with help from my sister and myself 3 days a week. Mom is getting very frustrated because we can't always figure out what she is trying to say. She also thinks we are always talking about her or that we are plotting against her. She also believes her husband is fooling around on her. One time said him and… read more

Is it best to let my mam wake in morning on her own or better yo wake them
I have been letting her lie in ..my brother tends to wake her with her breakfast ..personally i think this knocks her back ...

How do you cope with "Sun-downers". My husband wants to go "home" everynight. He even packs things he is taking with him. Every trick I know does nothing to help.

My mother can't do any of the things she used to enjoy like cooking, reading, shopping, traveling. She can't follow plots or comprehend more than a headline. Although the tv is on all day she isn't actively listening anymore. To keep her occupied we have reorganized dresser drawers & her jewelry box, gone through boxes of photos & worked on the family tree together. She has short term memory loss but is pretty clear about family history & loves to talk about relatives & events from the past. I… read more

I feel bad. I brought my dad into our home. He was a farmer. He had cattle and cats he watched over. It was getting expensive to let stay at home. Letting him stay at home by himself, wasn't an option anymore. At our house, I feel guilty. He's just sitting around like a rock on a log. He loves walks, cat rides, shopping, church and meeting new people. I tried to get him to feed our cat. Started out good. Now not so much. Sometimes, he will work on a puzzle. What do others loved ones… read more