I had to admit my mom to an ALZ memory center a month ago and she is beginning to adjust. It was really bad by the end of the first week and the nurse asked us to stay away for a couple of days. I think it helped some.

My parents went to see my Grandmother every day the entire 6 years she was in Assisted Living. My father found it helpful to go at the same time every day. (30 minutes before dinner) He would walk her down to the dining room and give her a hug and kiss goodbye and the distraction seemed to keep her from worrying about him leaving her there. Of course, there were bad days when she would swear he hadn't been by in weeks, but that is just the nature of the beast. Any time that he was unable to go he called the nurses and let them know to tell her that he had called. It also helped for them to keep track of factors that could influence her "bad days". I recommend getting to know the nursing staff.

I have not taken that step yet but I was told it takes about 30 days for one to adjust to the major changes in their life. Their routines are all different now and it takes to adjust. Longer for them. You should keep going, you are still his family and he recognizes you and wants to go home, he is still thinking of you. And he needs you in his life to know that you are still part of his new surroundings. God bless you.

I have also been informed it takes a while to adjust. I would give him about a week or too in order to settle in, ask the care givers about visits as they see this issue all the time.