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Home Or In A Home
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My mum came from Scotland to live with us in Ireland because she could no longer look after herself as she has Alzheimer’s. It wasn’t the easiest of moves for her , she feels rejected by my 3 sisters in Scotland as they either wouldn’t or couldn’t care for her , she also feels displaced. She finds it hard as my youngest sister lives in mum’s home with her own children and initially cared for mum but simply couldn’t cope after 6 months and placed mum temporarily in a psychiatric unit due to… read more

posted October 28, 2017
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I had this dilemma with my mother. She was living at home alone and refused live in care. We didn't have the space to take her in. A good friend who was a nurse said to wait for an opportunity to ease (trick) her into care. We found a place in advance in adult foster care and waited for our opportunity. One day, she had have surgery for glaucoma on both eyes which required having drops in her eyes every hour. I was out of state and my sister was scheduled to go out of the country in a few days. My sister called inn dilemma, and I said she should call the foster care home. They said to tell her the doctor had prescribed for her to go to this facility for care and just bring a couple changes of clothes and a toothbrush and she could bring the rest later. Best thing we ever did. She was comfortable there and the next day thought she had lived there for years. Be strong and go with your heart.

posted October 30, 2017
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there is so much guilt when we think of placing our parents. The fact that your mom settles well in respite says alot. That being said, you have your own life and family, and you need to reconnect with them and yourself. what ever your decision, I wish you the best of luck

posted February 3, 2018
A myALZteam Member

I am in a similar position and we don't have the money for a comfortable dimenture home for my partners dad. Help

posted December 28, 2017
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My mom did not want to go into any supported living place. We told her she couldn't stay in her home because she wasn't safe. Her doctor was wonderful and told her the same thing. She was not happy but cooperated. The first few month's she kept asking when she was going home and we kept telling her this is her new home. We decorated her room with things from her house.
She began to socialize more than ever before as there were many activities at the Nursing home. It has been the best move for everyone. Less worry for us about her safety, she has her medications given to her and her meals are healthy and she receives help with eating. We didn't visit for the first week as was suggested by the nursing home to allow them to get her integrated into the routines.

posted November 18, 2017
A myALZteam Member

Home or in a Home
I think the trick (ease) into a home sounds great!
She really does not know what`s going on.It is embedded in her head that she does not want to be in a home. But in reality that will most likely fade because she won`t know whats going on.As long as family is visiting and she is not forgotten .This would make it easier on you and hubby as well. And your siblings should understand hopefully.
Good luck whatever you decide.

posted November 3, 2017

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